Why do we keep fighting?
Repeating fights are rarely about the thing being fought over. There is usually an older shape underneath, and both of you are arguing that instead.
A five-card reading names the pattern, what is feeding it, and the one move that is actually available to you.
We'll read this as: What's underneath the pattern between us?
Cards that often come up
Five of Swords
Someone wins, and look at what the win is standing on.
Three of Swords
An old hurt being argued as if it were new.
Two of Swords
Two positions held level so neither has to move.